Adam bir ýaqytta eki baǵytta bailanysta bolady. Bul syrtqy jáne ishki aýmaqtar. Syrtqy aýmaqtarǵa adamnyń eńbek, úi, áleýmettik jáne otbasylyq bailanystary, onyń ishki aýmaǵy - qundylyqtar, sezimder, dúnietanym jatady. Bul aýmaqtar psihologiialyq qoldaý, qýatty resýrstar kózi bolyp tabylady, sonyń arqasynda siz ózińizdi jaily sezinesiz. Karantinge bailanysty syrtqy aýmaq is júzinde ýaqytsha joǵalyp ketti. Biz áriptesterimizben jáne dostarymyzben kezdespeimiz, meiramhanalarda qýanyshtarda birge ótkizý ýaqytsha toqtatyldy. Sondyqtan kúshterdi ishinen, adamnyń ishki áleminen alýǵa týra keledi. Bul bizdiń turaqtylyǵymyzdy buzady jáne pandemiianyń stresstik jaǵdaiyna tótep berý úshin resýrsty tómendetedi. Sondyqtan da bul jerde adamnyń ishki resýrstaryna qýat beretin onyń - otbasy. Otbasylyq jylý men qarym-qatynas úilesimi kez kelgen stressti jeńýdiń qýatty quraly bolyp tabylady.
Jalpy alǵanda, ata-analardyń aldynda balasynyń emotsionaldy jaǵdaiyn túsiný, onymen birge bolmaǵan ýaqyttarynyń ornyn toltyrý jáne jaqsy qarym-qatynas ornatý mindeti tur.
Ádette, kóptegen stýdentter basqa qalada turyp, oqityndyqtan, ata-analar árqashan balalarǵa degen sezimderin jetkilikti túrde bildire almaidy. Balalary qashyqtan, úide oqityn jaǵdaida, ata-analarǵa salystyrmaly túrde eresektermen, balalarmen, olardyń jańa qyzyǵýshylyqtary týraly bilýge múmkindik beriledi. Sondyqtan ortaq úi isteri, birlesken shai ishý, filmder men telebaǵdarlamalardy kórý, áńgimelesý óte mańyzdy. Karantin jaǵdaiynan shyqqannan keiin bala tárbiesindegi jibergen olqylyqtarynyń ornyn toltyryp, balasynyń múmkindikterin jáne odan ne talap ete alatynyn naqty biletin bolady. Balalarmen birge qarym-qatynasty qoldaý úshin óz týysqandaryna, ájelerine, atalaryna qońyraý shalyp, jaqyndaryna qamqor bolý óte mańyzdy. Ásirese, qazir osy ýaqytta jyly sezim paida bolady. Karantin álsirep ketken otbasynyń qarym-qatynas qundylyǵyn nyǵaita aldy.
Ókinishke orai, keibir otbasylarda karantin jáne táýlik boiy birge ýaqyt ótkizý múldem basqa kóriniske ákeldi: mysaly, keibir juptar ajyrasý týraly oiǵa keldi. Bul tek jas otbasylarda ǵana emes, úlken tájiribesi bar otbasylarda da baiqalady. Árine, bul otbasynyń barlyq múshelerine, ásirese balalar men jasóspirimderdiń psihikasyna áser etedi. Munda maman asyqpaýǵa, asyǵys qadamdar jasamaýǵa keńes beredi. Aralaryńyzda bolǵan barlyq jaqsy isterdi esińizde saqtańyz.
Karantin kezeńinde adamdar úide jumys isteýge jáne kásibi mindetterin úiden oryndaýǵa májbúr bolady. Alaida, eger ózine nazar aýdarýdy talap etetin bala bolsa, ony júzege asyrý ońai emes. Bul jaǵdaida erli-zaiyptylarǵa keńes: bireýi jumys istese, ekinshisi balamen otyrý kerek jáne kerisinshe. Aýysym kestesin belgileý kerek. Jalpy, karantin - bul barlyq otbasy músheleri úshin qarym-qatynas ornatýǵa jáne bir-birin jaqsyraq bilýge qosymsha múmkindik. Olardyń arasynda empatiia qalyptasady. Bul sezimdi kúsheitý kerek. Úi iesiniń kim ekenin anyqtaý, kenetten úi sharýasyndaǵy minsiz tártipti talap ete bastaýy, otaǵasyn ydys-aiaqty jýýǵa úiretý, al otanasyn tamaq jasaýǵa úiretý siiaqty áreketterden aýlaq bolǵan jón. Turmystyq problemalar taraptardyń kelisimi boiynsha qysymsyz sheshilýi kerek.
Qurmetti ata-analar otbasylyq psihologiialyq hal-ahýldaryńyz myqty bolsyn! Otbasy músheleriniń ishki resýrstarynyń tepe -teńdigin saqtaý úshin bir-birin kelesi sózdermen qoldaýǵa bolady:
- Mende A jáne B josparlary bar.Eki jospar da baqylaýda.
- Eger siz tepe-teńdikti joǵaltsańyz, ózińizdi aiyptamańyz - bul qalypty jaǵdai. Men senimen birgemin...
- Barlyǵyn baqylaý múmkin emes, mańyzdysyna nazar aýdaryńyz.
- Meniń tarapymnan qandai kómek kerek?
- Jaqsy bir áńgime aitaiyqshy.
- Balalarymyz bizdiń baqytymyz.
