Syrǵa salý – qyz uzatý, kelin túsirý joralǵylarynan buryn jasalatyn dástúr. Aıttyrylǵan qyz qalyńdyq atanyp, sol sátten bastap ózin jat jurttyq sezinedi.
Qyzǵa syrǵa salmas buryn jigit jaǵy boıjetkenniń ata-anasynyń ruqsatyn alady. Syrǵa salý – qazaqtyń erteden kele jatqan dástúri.
Buryn ata-analar uldaryna kelindi ózderi tańdaıtyn bolǵan. Ulyna laıyqty jar bolatyn qyzdy tapqan kezde, onyń otbasyna bir adamdy ókil qylyp jibergen nemese qyz kórýge arnaıy ózi barǵan. Qyzyn kórýge kelgen adamǵa qyzdyń sheshesi: "Qyzdy kim aıttyrmaıdy, qymyzdy kim ishpeıdi, qyzymnyń basy bos" degen syndy sózderimen qarsy emes ekenin emeýrindep bildirgen.
Osydan keıin qyzdy aıttyrýǵa kelgen tarap úki taǵý, syrǵa salý syndy joralǵylardy jasasqan. Eki jaq sóz baılasyp, qudalyq týraly ýádelesken soń, birte-birte qalyńmaly tólenedi. Aıttyrylǵan qyz "qalyńdyq" atanady.
Osy sátten bastap qyzdyń aǵaıyn-týysqany onyń kıim kıisine, júris-turysyna, tártibine basa nazar aýdarǵan. Úlkender jaǵy aıttyrylǵan qyzdyń qulaǵyna kelindik mindetterdi sińire bergen.
Qazaqta besikte jatqan balalardy da atastyryp qoıatyn salt bar. Ásirese, bir-birimen jaqyn aralasatyn dostar "sizden qyz, bizden ul týsa, quda bolamyz" dep ýaǵdalasqan. Saltymyzda muny "besik quda" dep ataıdy.
Buryn qazaqta aıttyrylǵan qyzǵa syrǵa emes, úki taǵý dástúri bolǵan. Jigitter qyzdyń bórkindegi úkisine qarap, onyń basy bos emes ekenin, aıttyrylyp qoıǵanyn bilgen. Qazir úki taǵý dástúrin syrǵa salý almastyrdy.
Eń aldymen, jigittiń eń jaqyn tórt-bes týysy qyzdyń úıine kelip, qalyńdyqty alyp ketetin kúndi belgileıdi. Qyzdyń ata-anasy mal soıyp, qudalardy dastarqan jaıyp qarsy alady.
Quda túsetin qyzdyń qulaǵyna tek altyn syrǵa taǵylady. Sebebi, qazaq halqy qyz balany "altynǵa" balaǵan.
Qyzdyń jeńgeleri qudalarǵa qalyńdyqty kórsetip, kórimdik alǵan. Osy kezde jigittiń jeńgeleri "qulaǵyń jamandyqty estimesin" dep qyzdyń qulaǵyna altyn syrǵa taǵyp, betinen súıgen. Sondaı-aq, jigit jaǵy qyzdyń áke-sheshesine, týǵan-týystaryna ákelgen syılyǵyn beredi.
